I thought I had to be the guy with a killer sales pitch, and smart responses to questions that prospects would throw at me.
In these meetings, it felt like everything was on the line.
Hundreds of thousands of dollars to close.
My job, and the jobs of the employees I was responsible for.
I felt like I had to prepare and rehearse my presentations.
Design every slide right.
Develop a script to recite.
It was a lot of pressure on me and my performance.
This resulted in stumbling through my presentations, filling awkward silence with insecure responses, and a lot of missed opportunities because I couldn’t convince some prospective clients to work with me.
After years of coaching from Chris Do, and many meetings later, I’ve discovered the source of all of that pressure. It turns out it was all completely internal. No one was applying this pressure except for me.
I was entering each prospective meeting with the idea that I must sell to this person. That I have to blow them away with my presentation and convince them to pay for my services. I came in with expectations to wow and win.
That was the problem. My approach to sales and client meetings was very flawed.
So i changed my lens on the whole situation.

Serving VS. Selling
What changed my approach to take the pressure off of client meetings?
When I enter prospective client meetings, I now go in with the lens of being “helpful,” rather than going in to “sell.” When I walk into that conference room, this is what I tell myself:
“I’m not here to make a sale. I’m here to be helpful.”
“I’m perfectly ok if we determine that this is not a good mutual fit.”
“If I cannot genuinely help this prospect, I will walk away from the job.”
